“I won’t talk to your wife anymore, she is volatile.”
My husband laughed when he relayed the message to me from our landlord. He knew that most certainly my redheaded Irish “freak-out” was most definitely deserved. We often referred to him as our slum-lord as he did absolutely nothing to help his tenants, including fix the dripping roof leaks. Understand my thoughts here: we had just opened a coffee house in his building, put thousands of dollar into space improvements as well as equipment, and every time it rained, it dripped on brewers, counter tops of baked goods, tables, and the occasional customer. I was furious. I would even venture to say that I was filled with righteous indignation. It was his job to provide a rain free atmosphere – don’t you think?
My point here isn’t whether I was right or wrong…it is that in the days that followed my tirade, all communication between the landlord and I began to deteriorate, causing headaches and stress for not only the landlord, but also me, my husband who had to listen to my complaints, and my children who unfortunately reaped the benefits of much residual anger.
Was this a wise course of action for me to take? In hindsight and being the person I am now (this was pre-believer era) I would say probably not. James 4:1 from the voice says this:
Where do you think your fighting and endless conflict come from? Don’t you think that they originate in the constant pursuit of gratification that rages inside each of you like an uncontrolled militia?
That one hurts just a little bit…okay, a lot! I find this to be true of so many situations in life. Spouses who constantly argue their viewpoint, parents that fight continually with their teenage children, friends who can’t agree or who have been hurt by the other; seeking satisfaction...okay, my life. Are we wrong in the basis for these arguments? Most likely there are valid reasons for our reactions. But it is exactly these reactions that perpetuate the problem, sometimes taking the situation from bad to worse as in my experience above.
“Wisdom from God centers on purity, peace, gentleness, deference, and mercy, untainted by hypocrisy.” –the voice
We may not agree with the choices others make, the opinions that they have, or like the way that we have been treated, but responding in kind doesn’t make it any better.
The world says to fight back.
Wisdom says to forgive
The world says to fight for what you want
Wisdom says to turn away from your own interests
The world says to love yourself
Wisdom says to love God, and love others.
Seeking wisdom from the right source is vital to a beautiful life filled with peace, love, understanding, and the blessings of God. As you seek this wisdom, HOPE will grow.
Perhaps if I had ventured to seek God’s wisdom concerning the leaky roof, He would have gone to battle on my behalf, instead of me making myself as well as everyone around me absolutely miserable. I definitely employ this battle strategy in the not-so-great happenings of life today, railing in my now very rare Irish red-head freak-outs. Yes, they still happen, but with increasingly less frequency – much to everybody’s thankfulness.
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